Why I’m celebrating my 6th anniversary of being in a wheelchair
Sep 18th
It is now the 6th anniversary of being called a physically challenged mother. Or in more technical terms, a quadriplegic.
I was hospitalized 6 years ago just before Rosh Hashanah. From that day on, I wasn’t able to walk properly and since then I have mainly been confined to a wheelchair.
Every year, when the anniversary comes up I have a dilemma. Should I just ignore the day, should I cry all day long or should I celebrate the day? This is the first year that I have felt like celebrating. Why?
There is a lot I have lost. For me, the most important thing is independence. I am always reliant on other people to help me. Like getting out of my house, like getting on to public transport and like getting my meals. Before this happened to me I was always proud of how I super-independent I was. I could run a home, look after 5 children and earn an income to support the family.
Now that independence has gone I am able to reflect on whether it is really important at all. At the end of the day, however much we think we are in control of running our lives, we are not. We can put loads of effort into finding a new job and nothing happens. We can want 5 beautiful healthy children and we get given a child with a serious heart problem. We can want the perfect marriage and we end up arguing all the time.
No, independence is not important. We are not in control of our lives. Only the one above knows what we deserve and what we will be given.
What about achievements? For me this was always important. I have an A1 personality which means I have to get the top grades in college, the top career and the top salary. Now I can’t achieve half of what I want to achieve in a day. Even the simplest of tasks like getting myself dressed takes an eternity.
So after 6 years have I achieved anything?
Yes, I am still in this world! Three of my close friends have passed away over this period. With all my physical limitations I can still breathe, talk and think. In fact, the first question I asked the neurologist on finding out that I was disabled was “Is my head OK?”. I have all my faculties, and believe me, this is something to celebrate.
Yes I am celebrating life, albeit a different life.
How to use Google+ to reach your customers
Aug 2nd

The essence of good marketing is to target your message to your audience. Google have already demonstrated that they know how important this is in the way they have set up Google AdWords. You can set up Ad Groups for any sub-sector of your market you want, and then write an ad that is targeted to this sub-group.
Google+ also allows for targeting your message via the concept of circles. Each circle can be set up as the sub-sector of the market you want to target.
For example, a small business marketing a mobile service could set up the following circles:
Prospective customers, New customers, Repeat customers, Dissatisfied customers
This small biz could personalize posts on Google+ to each sub-sector, in the same way that an email message is personalized.
The launch of the Google+ business page is rumored to be only 2 weeks away. So now is the time to start planning ahead, and to even get started on this plan.
Using your personal profile, you can set up similar circles to this. Put some of your followers into a “prospective customers” circle if you think they might be interested in your product or service. Test out different messages to this circle, and to the ”Public” circle. Compare which circle gets more shares and comments.
Unimpressed with this concept?
Well I have tested it out myself. I sell Jewish/Israeli media so my target audience is people who are either Israeli or Jewish. I have made one circle for these people, and there are already 280 people in it. I have posted links or videos to this circle only, and got a much higher level of interaction than my posts to the “Public” circle.

I am convinced targeting using circles works, and I am sure big brands and small businesses will be doing it.
Do you have any experience of customer-based circles?
An absolute beginner’s guide to using Twitter
Jul 24th
Everybody is talking about joining Twitter and you often hear it mentioned in the news. So what is Twitter?
Twitter is a social networking site that is similar to Facebook. All posts on Twitter are known as ‘tweets’ and all tweets are limited to 140 characters. You can post comments, photos, videos and links to a website.
How do you get started?
The first step is to go to http://www.twitter.com to set up an account. Sign up with your name, email and a password. Bear in mind that the name you enter will be how you are known to all your followers. If you have a long name or want to be anonymous you may want to use a nickname. Once you have filled out the details you will receive a confirmation email, click on the link to activate your account.
The second step is to set up your profile. Upload a profile picture of yourself or your organization. This appears as a very small photo every time you post a tweet. So choose a photo or logo that works well when it is very small.
The third step is to write a short biography about yourself or your organisation. Try and make the text interesting or funny as this will help people find and follow you on Twitter. You can also enter your location and a link to a website page.
Now you can write your first tweet to tell the world what’s happening! Your tweets will appear on your profile page in date order with the most recent at the top.
How about following other people who are on Twitter? First go to the top of the home page and click on the Who to follow link. Here you can find friends or suggestions from Twitter. ‘Following’ a person on Twitter means subscribing to have their tweets appear on your homepage ‘feed’. The more people you follow, the busier your Twitter feed.
When you post a tweet you can write to just one follower. The way to do this is to use the @ symbol followed by the person’s username e.g. @emilycagle. This is the same as using the ‘To’ or ‘CC’ fields in an email, and is called a Mention. If you want to see who has mentioned you in a tweet, go to the home page and click on @Mentions next to the timeline.
If you like what someone else has tweeted, you can repost it to your followers. This is called a Retweet (RT). You can also reply in public to the post or add it to your favorite posts. To do these three things, look under the tweet and you will see options to Favorite, Retweet or Reply. If you want to send someone a private message (DM), go to Messages at the top of the home page.
So now you are ready to build up your social network. The best way to get going is to start engaging in conversation with your followers. Start off by posting news, information about yourself, your family and world events.
You can use Twitter on your computer, tablet or mobile phone. Twitter provides web-based programs and downladable applications to do this. As you get more advanced and gain more followers, you might want to use third-party applications that make Twitter easier to use. For example TweetDeck and HootSuite can manage your stream of posts by displaying it in columns. They also have a tool called a link shortener which shortens a very long website link so that you can fit it into the 140 character limit.
If you’re struggling to get started, check out tutorial videos on YouTube or go to Twitter’s Help Center.
Of course the first thing you should do is follow me on Twitter! You can find me here: @jewnet
I look forward to chatting with you on Twitter.
The simple pleasure of taking a shower
Jul 20th
I always used to take a shower first thing in the morning. Even if I had been up half the night with a screaming baby, and I was only half-awake, the first thing I did in the morning was to run into the shower to freshen up. It made me feel awake and ready to face the day. A simple pleasure.
All of a sudden I had this pleasure taken away from me.
Six years ago I became disabled. For those of you who don’t know, the full story is here: http://www.theorthofile.blogspot.com/
Both my hands and legs were affected by the disability. From then on, every time I wanted a shower I had to ask someone to shower me. At first I was very embarrassed for someone to see my body. But over time I trained myself to tune out the feelings of shame, and accept it as part of my condition. However the aspect that really bothered me was that most weeks I only got a shower twice a week.
Yes, I really lived like that for almost six years. Luckily during that time not one person commented on my body odors! I just dreamed of the simple pleasure in life that everyone takes for granted.
Yesterday, with a new bathroom and a new wheelchair for the bathroom I finally got to take a shower on my own. It took a lot of preparation to set-up, and a lot of difficult maneuvers for me. I estimate from beginning to end it took about an hour and a half.
Although I was absolutely exhausted after the shower, I felt wonderful. I had regained the simple pleasure of taking a shower again.
I feel very arrogant to say this to my friends, but I still think I should. Don’t take the simple things in life for granted. So many people are far more disabled than I am. They can’t talk, walk or even feed themselves. When you think that you are having a particularly hard day, try and appreciate the simple pleasures you enjoy.
I do now.
5 lessons a social media marketer can learn from a traditional marketer
Jun 27th
Let’s start with a short history lesson.
Facebook was launched in February 2004, Twitter in July 2006, YouTube in February 2005 and LinkedIn in May 2003. So social media channels have only been around for 7 years. This has led to the birth of a new breed of marketer who is expert in using these new media: the social media marketer.
Traditional marketing, on the other hand, has been around for a very long time. The Internet and World Wide Web took off in the early 90’s. Something that we think of as very new, viral marketing was identified as far back as 1996.
But we have to go way back to find the origins of Marketing. Did you know that “Marketing emerged as a separate technical field in the late 19th century”? (Source: Wikipedia)
With over a century of experience in traditional marketing, and a vast amount of published academic material on the basics of marketing, perhaps there is something social media marketers can learn from? Let’s start with basic marketing principles:
Lesson 1. Research your market
This means take a look at your marketplace and industry. Who are your main competitors? Who is your current audience? What do your consumers think of your brand? Where do they buy?
Social media provides great tools for doing market research. You can actually listen in to what people are saying about your brand or organization. Just do a real time search in Twitter or Hootsuite on your name. Or check out your competitors.
Lesson 2. The customer comes first
This old line can become the core of your social strategies. Immediate customer service can be provided by a ‘social media help desk’ to respond to customer questions and queries. Social pages and messages can be updated regularly to provide customer information like prices, delivery dates and special offers.
Lesson 3. Develop a unique selling proposition (USP)
You should be able to sum up in one line what differentiates your product or organization from its competitors. The USP for social media may be different than for the traditional media. It should nevertheless be developed and written into your social media plan. This message should be conveyed across all social media, both in terms of what you say and how you visually present your offering.
Lesson 4. Develop a social media strategy
Having a Facebook page, a Twitter account and a LinkedIn page is not a social media strategy. What are you intending to gain for your organization? What action do you expect people to take?
Try The POST Method: a systematic approach to social strategy developed by Forrester Research,
This is the basic structure of the POST system. The acronym stands for People, Objectives, Strategy, Technology, explained as follows:
People: assess your customer’s social computing behaviors
Objectives: decide what you want to accomplish
Strategy: plan for how relationships with customers will change
Technology: decide what social technologies to use
Lesson 5. Integrate all your marketing efforts
The consumer is exposed to all your marketing efforts; offline and online. Branding should therefore be consistent across all marketing channels. Social media is of course only one element alongside print, PR, TV, online and retail.
In practice this means the Facebook page design should reflect your website. The Twitter account should use corporate colors, logos, and a bio which reflects your ‘social face’. YouTube videos should be branded and not generic.
Make sure your social media team is well trained in presenting the ‘right’ corporate message. If not serious damage can be done to your brand properties and corporate image.
Do you have any other lessons that could be added?
Why are we obsessed with food on Shavuot?
Jun 6th
For the last few days, the main topic of conversation between me and my friends has been food. Not just any food, but food for Shavuot.
Which meal is going to be dairy? Should we make any meaty meals? Are we going to make a fruity or chocolate cheesecake? How do you make blintzes? What time are you going to eat?
The list is endless. I’m sure my friends could fill an afternoon talking about it.
But the days before Shavuot the Jewish people were preparing themselves to receive the Torah. The preparations were supposed to be of a spiritual nature rather just getting their food sorted out. And so, today we should be preparing ourselves in the same way.
Is there an answer why this festival has become so food-obsessive?
For a start, there are no specific mitzvot to keep on Shavuot. Nearly everything we do is a minhag. Like learning all night, eating dairy and decorating your home with flowers. So maybe to fill this void we preoccupy ourselves with food? Maybe it’s a Jewish thing to only think about our stomachs? Or maybe it’s a deficiency we have until we take on all the mizvot of the Torah?
Putting on my marketing hat, I see it as focusing on the presentation rather than the content. What counts is the substance of what you are offering, the packaging is just a tool to draw you in. So you could say that food is important to attract us to enjoy the real essence of Shavuot.
What do you think?
Does social media make you a better person?
Feb 2nd
As I spend so much time on social media, I have started to think what effect this is having on my character. Am I just becoming an “addict” obsessed with numbers of friends or followers? Do I spend so much time on it that I am ignoring my family?
There are plenty of negative aspects that I could dwell on; like gossiping, showing off, putting other people down and using obscene language.
But there are also plenty of positive aspects that I have come to learn over time. Here are just a few examples which come to mind:
1. Providing company for lonely people
2. Helping friends through a crisis
3. Answering questions of religion
4. Making people laugh
5. Solving business and work problems
6. Sharing news and information
7. Supporting a cause or charity
8. Spreading positive information about Israel
9. Sending out a prayer call
10. Encouraging togetherness (achdut) among Jews and Friends of Israel
Please help me add to this list, or convince me that I have become WORSE!
A Jewish cure for Insomnia
Jan 3rd
Everyone knows the old formula of counting sheep. Well I tried it one night and couldn’t resist being more inventive.
How about Jewish sheep?
No. 1 sheep – long beard
No. 2 sheep – bald head
No. 3 sheep – baseball cap
No. 4 sheep – knitted kippa
No. 5 sheep – black hat
No. 6 sheep – long curly peyot
No. 7 sheep – no beard
No. 8 sheep – Ashkenazi
No. 9 sheep – Sephardi
No. 10 sheep – fancy sheitl
No. 11 sheep – plain scarf
No. 12 sheep – very wealthy
No. 13 sheep – rules the world
…………………………………………………
No. 98 sheep – big nose
No. 99 sheep – horns
End Result. I still couldn’t fall asleep. Too worried about being accused of racism!
My Thoughts: Do we have herd mentality or are we one big family?
Your thoughts? Please comment.
Do you still need business cards?
Oct 18th
It seems to many people today that “old media” is dead. The buzz word is “buzz”. Invest all your time and money in social media and electronic marketing.
So should we forget business cards and everything on paper?
Although I am a big advocate of web marketing (and it’s my profession), it is only one element of the marketing mix.
Yes, you still need a prospect or leaflet to be informed on an offer or business.
Yes, you still open mail to read your bills.
Yes, you still read the community mags to catch up on neighborhood news.
Yes, you still read emails from business colleagues and friends.
Yes, you still keep a collection of refrigerator magnets.
And YES, when you go to a meeting the first thing everyone does is swap business cards!
Only disabled in body
Jul 29th
Since becoming disabled 5 years ago, I have become a different person.
Well, that’s what most people think when they see me. They talk different, they behave different and they think different about me. Yes, I am different, but only in body performance.
I am a Mom of 5 kids, I work and I run a house. It’s not easy, but we can make life easier. I would like to help other disabled people who want to make a LIFE. So here goes …











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